Life Of An Introvert...

Life Of An Introvert...

the best way for an introvert to live his life - 

1. Forget About the Labels

Ok, yes, our brains need labels to function. Also, yes, the more we know the more power to us. But there is also a danger of hiding behind labels and diagnosis. You might be an introvert but that doesn’t mean that you are like any other introvert. Do yourself a big favor: take everything with a grain of salt and remember that your truth is your own. Just take the scientific approach and test things out; observe yourself, befriend yourself, trust yourself and don’t allow any external source to predict your behavior, development, and potential. In other words, remember that you are the only one who can decide and define what you can and be as an Introvert.

2. Come Out Of The Closet

No need trying to act like someone else. So you’re an introvert. That’s great! When it comes to personality types there is no such thing as desirable and undesirable, right or wrong, cool or un-cool. There is only the way we perceive ourselves and how we make the best of talents and qualities while learning to embrace our shortcomings.

3. Understand What You Bring To The Table

You are observant, right?! Why not use that. Examine your interactions and decide what you can improve and where your game is strong. What do people look for in you? Maybe you’re a good listener; maybe you always have sound advice; maybe you have a vast culture; maybe you’re just good company. This is not about comparing yourself to others for the sake of blowing up your self-esteem so there is no need to feel vain. It is, in fact, an act of honest evaluation where you reflect on your gifts, your shortcomings, your goals and your relationships.

4. Get Things Done

Ok, yes, you may argue there is no guarantee that an introvert is more productive than an extrovert. But the reality is that as an extrovert is always more likely to fall down the social rabbit hole and emerge hours later running after the night bus. As an introvert, you have the innate ability to do more for yourself. It’s not that you don’t want to share your inner world. It’s just that most of the time it’s easier for you to share it in solitude. Not because you have an issue with looking into someone’s eyes and telling them how you feel, but because writing, cooking or drawing for them allows you to feel energized instead of tired.
With this being said, why not work this to your advantage and spend your time and energy in ways that can later be used to showcase your talents?

5. Own Being Mysterious, Interesting, Unique, Wise

Yes, being outgoing is nice. We all admire the people who can thrive in situations where all eyes are on them. Loud and proud and apparently strangers to any kind of self-doubt, extroverts have us all thinking that being them is the best deal one can make with destiny. But if you were to look at things from an outside point of view things might look different.
We are who we are and we only have two options. The first one is to remain stuck in wanting to be like other people. The second is to work with what we have and turn that into a story that we would love hearing over and over again. Why not be involved in creating your own story. Why not make a commitment be proud about being a mysterious creature that is not easily accessible to everyone? Why not make a decision to be ok with being interesting, unique, wise and elusive? Yes, we all love outgoing people but we all end up being fascinated by those who are harder to reach.

6. Be The Master Of Moods and Atmosphere

As an introvert, your energy naturally goes inward. So in a sense, you are naturally more self-sufficient. You can have all the same emotional experiences an extrovert can without leaving your room. So, you are usually more inclined to treat yourself as the best company. From my introverted friends I have learned that they are the go-to people when it comes to achieving the perfect mood and atmospheres. An introvert will only play the right music, light the perfect amount of candles and it will all happen at the appropriate moment.
So, don’t be afraid to offer yourself the right set and setting of your story. Everyone will thank you for it.

7. Enjoy Surprising Those Who Get Close To You With Your Depth And Your Passion

They say that still waters run deep. From my experience that is a very real image when it comes to describing the introvert.
Because you are quiet and observant people might think that you’re calm and predictable. Even better! Allow life to reveal your true emotional nature, your depth, your complexities, your darkness and your passion to those who deserve it.
It might take a while but the result is priceless!

8. Know That You Are A Good Friend

We all love extroverts because they force us to have fun and interact with life. But we have introverts to thank for taking our hand and guiding us through to the depths of our emotions. It’s not that introverts plan on doing this. Introverts don’t people shop. They don’t fall in love with social projections and this makes them a lot more stable in their relationships. They will stand by the people they were able to connect with deeply and they will value that connection. They nurture their friendships and they are there for better or for worse.
Also, you can just be quiet with them and that’s amazing!

9. Get Involved With Extroverts

Being caught up in your own thoughts and preoccupations can be boring and even dangerous after a certain point. For the sake of balance and sanity, every introvert needs to befriend at least one extrovert. They will force you to have some fun and stop taking things so seriously. They will also get you out of your head because they just can’t help sharing what goes on in their life. This is also a good example for an introvert that can sometimes use a push in the direction of opening up.
Being close to extroverts is also convenient as you can benefit from their natural gifts without having to make an effort yourself. For example, extroverts can introduce you to new people without you having to go through the ordeal of “putting yourself out there”. Extroverts can prove to be your go-to source of networking and social entertainment.
On the flip side, you can also feel like your qualities and skills are actually finding the best outlet in your extroverted friend’s life. You are quiet and grounded in the relationship with yourself. Your habits and character will always show your extrovert another, more self-reliant way of dealing with life.
Yes, they might be tiring but trust me, you are tiring to them as well. As long as you have a good sense of boundaries you will thank your extrovert for shaking things up in your life every once in a while.